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In West Townshend, Vermont, a 73 year old women is being tried for murdering her 78 year old frail husband after 40 years of marriage. Police say that she tried to kill him first with sleeping pills, but ended up attacking him with a heavy stick or baseball bat, as heavy blows to the head were the cause of death.

Several witnesses testified in court that she admitted the murder to them. One witness testified that after the accused admitted to murdering her husband because she was tired of being in a loveless marriage for 40 years and tired of caring for her frail husband, she asked the accused, "Why didn't you leave?" The accused answered simply, "My life is over. I'll go to prison…I've been in prison for years anyway."

How sad is this. It reminds me of the joke where at a 25th wedding anniversary party a man finds his friend, the guest of honor, in the bathroom of the banquet hall crying. He comes over and asks the man why he's crying. The husband replies, "If I would have killed her, I would have been out of prison by now."

A joke is a joke, but I guess there are people who might really feel that way. Can you imagine a woman so unhappy with her husband that she would continue to live in a marriage for so long without filing for divorce? If she really wanted to kill her husband, to collect the inheritance, why would she kill him with a baseball bat? How hard would it be to kill him in his sleep in a painless manner and say that he died in his sleep. If she had a secret love affair with another man (as the prosecution is trying to build a case for motive) so then get a divorce and run off with your lover.

From the way the case appears she really had strong negative feelings against this man. I think a large part of the problem, in this case particularly, and why the divorce rate in general in America is so high is because people get married for the wrong reasons

Sometimes people use marriage to solve there drive for sexual intercourse. Birth control was invented so people could fulfill there sexual desires without the "burden" of responsibility of a family. Naturally, sex is only meant as a means of reproduction just like all other animals on the planet. The fact that it is enjoyable was done on purpose so that people should come to reproduce for their survival, but people are looking to exploit sexual intercourse to only take the enjoyment and not utilize it for what it is for. To bear offspring and raise a family.

Thus people find themselves getting into relationships not to start a family, but because they accidentally became pregnant, or they want a steady sex partner or they think it is the socially accepted thing to do. Either way, later down the road of marriage when sex does not become important anymore, nor does physical appearance or beauty, the marriage is in for rough ride. If you are not choosing a life partner for the long haul to share your life with and build a life with then the marriage will not last.

Raising a family and living as husband and wife takes a lot of work. No matter who you choose and no matter how compatible the two are, it always takes work to build a meaningful relationship with anyone. However, the more suitable of a partner you choose, for all of the long term reasons, the better your chances of a successful marriage and lifelong relationship.

If you are in a loveless marriage then you might have to get out, but there is no point in looking for another marriage until you understand the point of marriage.